Monday, August 3, 2009

thoughts on courtship and preparing for marriage

If a man can see the value in laboring and making sacrifices to pursue the necessary education and invest in the career of his choice- surely he will see the value in laboring and making sacrifices for obtaining the woman of his choice.

Some men do not care about such preparations. These men are likely to choose women who are not difficult to win over. If they define their self worth based on how they are treated by their man, which some do, these women may feel of low worth.

On the flip side, a woman who is herself established and prominent in her talents and areas of strength, and does not let every person in, will naturally command a higher regard. The reason is simple, the man had to prepare himself and make personal sacrifices, and hope, beyond hope- that he would be selected by her.

Sometimes men are interested in a career on the outset, then work in it for a while, and realize they hate their job. Sometimes, they even invest years pursuing a career that does not lead to feelings of fulfillment, and then choose a different one. Thus, relationships can be similar. A man or woman should not feel discouraged by the fact that they don't do it for the person they dated. But they should figure it out before marriage, otherwise the results will be devistating.

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